| Using Intimidation |
- Making you afraid by using looks, actions, or gestures.
- Smashing things.
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- Destroying property.
- Abusing pets.
- Displaying weapons.
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| Using Emotional Abuse |
- Putting you down.
- Making you feel bad about yourself.
- Calling you names.
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- Making you feel guilty.
- Making you think you are crazy.
- Playing mind games.
- Humiliating you.
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| Using Isolation |
- Controlling what you do, whom you see and talk to, what you read, and where you go.
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- Limiting your outside involvement.
- Using jealousy to justify actions.
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| Denying, Blaming, Minimizing |
- Making light of the abuse and not taking your concerns about it seriously.
- Saying the abuse didn't happen
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- Shifting responsibility for abusive behavior to other people or circumstances.
- Saying you caused the abuse.
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| Using Children |
- Making you feel guilty about the children.
- Using the children to relay messages.
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- Using visitation to harass you.
- Threatening to take the children away.
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| Using Male Privilege |
- Making all the big decisions.
- Acting like "Master of the Castle".
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- Being the one to define men's and women's roles.
- Treating you like a servant.
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| Using Economic Abuse |
- Preventing you from getting or keeping a job.
- Making you ask for money.
- Giving you an allowance.
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- Taking your money.
- Not letting you know about or have access to family income.
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| Using Coercion and Threats |
- Making and/or carrying out threats to do something to hurt you.
- Threatening to "out" you.
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- Threatening to leave you, to commit suicide, to report you to Welfare authorities.
- Making you do illegal things.
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