Domestic Violence is a pattern of physical or emotional abuse in a relationship that is used to gain control and power over a significant other.
The abuse is sexual, emotional, physical, and threats of action that could influence another person. This includes any behaviors that frighten, intimidate, terrorize, manipulate, hurt, humiliate, blame, injure or wound someone.
Noticing and acknowledging the warning signs and symptoms of domestic violence and abuse is the first step to ending it. No one should live in fear of the person they love. If you recognize yourself or someone you know in the following warning signs and descriptions of abuse, don’t hesitate to reach out. There is help available.
Domestic abuse often escalates from threats and verbal abuse to violence. And while physical injury may be the most obvious danger, the emotional and psychological consequences of domestic abuse are also severe. Emotionally abusive relationships can destroy your self-worth, lead to anxiety and depression, and make you feel helpless and alone. No one should have to endure this kind of pain—and your first step to breaking free is recognizing that your situation is abusive. Once you acknowledge the reality of the abusive situation, then you can get the help you need.
Many victims learn early that “troubleshooting” for the batterer may affect their safety. If the victim can demonstrate (especially in the presence of the batterer) a loyalty and desire to help the batterer stay out or get out of “trouble”, this may translate into future compromises. It may be advantageous to the victim to remind the batterer of times of rescue or support. In turn, this may be traded for safety.